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💡 TLDR
Okay so like, did you know Valentine’s Day is basically a full-blown reality TV show? Your algorithm is probably spilling your feed with pics of rose petals, gift guides, and couples’ spa dates—OR it’…
Okay so like, did you know Valentine’s Day is basically a full-blown reality TV show? Your algorithm is probably spilling your feed with pics of rose petals, gift guides, and couples’ spa dates—OR it’s flooding your scroll with anti-Valentine’s content, like “Shred Your Ex” events and cockroach-naming rituals. Yeah, that’s real. And honestly? We’re vibing with the chaos.
So why are people going full anti-Valentine’s? Let’s spill: For a lot of folks, Feb 14 feels like a capitalist trap. It’s all about selling love, right? Like, you’re supposed to buy flowers, text your SO, and act like your relationship is literally the peak of human existence. But hey, not everyone’s on the relationship escalator. Sex therapist Casey Tanner calls it “monogonormativity”—like, why should love be the only valid reason to be with someone? And with only 37% of people planning to celebrate, it’s basically a holiday for the lonely, not the lovin’.
Enter the anti-Valentine’s crew. Amanda Badeau, who runs The Archive (a bookstore-cafe-wine bar combo), is hosting a “Shred Your Ex” night. Instead of forcing people to fake joy, she’s turning heartbreak into a communal, playful experience. Think red flag bingo, shredders for your exes, and a vibe that’s equal parts cathartic and petty. The crowd’s already going wild—people are showing up with friends, ready to laugh at their past drama.
Meanwhile, the Bronx Zoo’s “Name a Roach” initiative is basically the anti-Valentine’s flex. For $15, you can name a Madagascar cockroach after your partner, your kid, or… your ex. Yeah, some people are literally naming roaches after people they don’t love. It’s weird, it’s weirdly beautiful, and it’s definitely not about flowers.
💫 Whether you’re into the traditional stuff or the “shred your ex” energy, one thing’s for sure: this holiday is evolving, and we’re here for the ride.
So what’s the takeaway? Anti-Valentine’s Day isn’t about hating love—it’s about redefining what love means in a world that’s way too obsessed with pink hearts and perfect relationships. Whether you’re into the traditional stuff or the “shred your ex” energy, one thing’s for sure: this holiday is evolving, and we’re here for the ride.
Hey, what’s your vibe? Traditional Valentine’s or anti-Valentine’s? Drop your take below!
❓ People Also Ask
What is Anti-Valentines Day?
Anti-Valentines Day is a day to celebrate being single or rejecting traditional romance. It encourages self-love and independence instead of following Valentine’s Day norms.
How did Anti-Valentines Day start?
Anti-Valentines Day originated online as a response to Valentine’s Day pressures. It gained traction through social media, promoting alternative ways to celebrate love and individuality.
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